What is common between Indian arranged marriage and MacDonald food? They both serve the basic instinct at connivance and help you get relief from your basic fire. Over the years the development we did in cooking respecting our basic fire, we declined to expand the same for sex. While we went out to create nirvana out of food, we created taboo around sex. While on one side we institutionalised sex, on other hand we franchised food and experimented. So much so, our fore mothers used food as means of communication when women were not at equal level within joint families. We used different types of food to create variety of situations and we used it as healing of soul. So entire value chain was created because we developed in house competency and passed those skills from one generation to another. somewhere down the line, We mistook sex as a tool for pleasure and re generation rather than connecting it with basic need and accept it as natural as hunger for food. Where did we start feeling wrong about acepting the need for sex to be fulfilled??? Was it lack of contraceptive that sex produced kids out of ignorance and issue of ownership of a male came in to being and that created havoc for first part of the civilization when humans were in stone age? Was HIV the first known disease on the planet which forced us to practice marriage and monogamy... when our first human had a need to survive, then man and woman were all hunting for food and ate anything or everything and accidently they discovered sex. Sex produced babies which made woman to stay back and take care of baby... but hang on, there was a gestation period during which a woman discovered motherhood to be able to sacrifice hunt for food for herself and for the child and asked man to bring food for her and their baby.... But why did man do this?? why did he agree to bring food for woman??? is fatherhood as old a concept as motherhood is??? He did it finally to bring food not only for himself but also for his woman and a her child( he did not know if this is because of him). Remember we are talking of a time when we did not know any emotion except one need- hunger for food.

Sure enough at that time, man must have recognized sex as his need or pleasure worth bring food for the woman. Or do you believe it is his fatherhood, which made him bring food?
If it was purely sex, then why he had to bring food as if it is not available to him outside. Why did man decide to institutionalize sex while scarcity of it was not known to him?

Something must have happened during the process of first birthing that made man and woman come closer to form a family? Yet at the same time, first child must have given birth to mystery, and probably the first question man asked on earth was also to know how this baby is produced?? Did we create god in the process of giving birth to humanity?? Because before that god was not known???

While man was busy asking questions and solving mystery, woman was busy nurturing baby, protecting the child and that gave birth to her feminity?? Remember first man and woman did not know the difference between man and woman except being aware and curious about their physical attributes being different.

Hence the very first deal a man made on earth was about fulfilling his sexual needs. When woman said that she cannot go for hunting and she wants man to bring food for her and (their) baby, he must have done that for sex.

The most fascinating part comes after he went on hunting for food. Woman was alone at home with the child and unknowing had sex with another man and produced another baby which first man was not aware of. That brought issue of protection. There must have been episode of woman being attacked by some other men to kill her or her baby or by other species and that gave birth to second level and third level contracts and deal among human beings. On second level, man made a deal to create boundary for the woman, which was called “home” to give her protection from other men and third level agreement came in place to create community among various such couple not to infringe in each other area and that formed first community level. For many hundred years, they went through evolution to respect their contracts and refining the boundary areas.

So home was a need of a woman to get protection and food while sex was the need of a man and that is how we created marriages and created home. It was a perfect arrangement till one day man & woman found out loyalties need to be built, retention programs need to be done. It happened when man had to provide protection to more than one family simply because he created many such arrangements and it happened when woman created more babies and asked one man to feed kids of her from other men and that started refining emotionality of man and woman….

Next blog: birth and evolution process of human emotionality???